“Emotional intelligence is the key to both personal & professional success”.
Emotional Intelligence starts with being self & socially aware of your emotions and its impact on yourself and of those around you. It also involves self reflection which is important as you’re bringing attention to whats happening in your day to day life in a mindful and open-minded way. We live a fast pace life where we’re not taking the time out to reflect on whats happening internally. For example, asking yourself; • What are my emotional strengths? • Does my current mood affect my thought process and decision making? • What triggers me? • What are my weaknesses?
An easy theory that is also difficult in practice is “Thinking before you speak & act”. This can save you from disputes with others and it can also be used for self-reflection, thinking before you down talk yourself. Taking the time out to think can prevent you from making permanent decisions based on temporary emotions. To avoid becoming a slave to your emotions you can put out the intention of striving to control it. If you focus on your thoughts you are capable of controlling how you react to your emotions.
Im gonna list a few illustrations on emotional Intelligence alongside low emotional Intelligence;
⁃ Emotional Intelligence is also about benefiting from criticism. Negative feedback can teach you and keep your emotions in check, its really for you to take it as a positive learning step and look for ways it can make you a better person.
⁃ Demonstrating empathy is understanding how to build deeper and a more connected relationship with others. Its understanding other peoples feelings and thoughts as well as your own.
⁃ Forgive and move on, don’t dwell on things you cant change and give yourself the chance to heal. When you forgive you’re allowing yourself to be at peace and you’re in control of your own emotions whereas if you don’t, you’re allowing others to hold your emotions hostage.
⁃ Keeping your word/ commitment, gaining trust and a strong reputation by keeping your word or promises as nowadays its been normalised to bail out on people and break a commitment big or small.
Low emotional Intelligence
A person with low emotional Intelligence will find it harder to pursue their dreams as their approach are more restricting.
⁃ You will find it hard understanding other peoples emotions. They either don’t notice it or lack understanding to why they’re feeling the way they do. They also lack empathy.
⁃ You will not take responsibility for your own emotions, instead you will blame others. They fail to understand that they’re in control of their own lives and emotions.
⁃ Consider other people “over sensitive” when they don’t get the reaction they expected from running a joke and not taking in consideration that they may not be in a good mood.
⁃ Low emotional Intelligence people have no control over their emotions and also cannot control their reactions.
⁃ They find it hard to keep friendship because they may come across as cold or uncaring.