Being in certain situations shows you how necessary communication is, lack of communication really does leave doors open for assumptions to consume the situation and thats where things can begin to go wrong. Im a verbal person, i like to express when necessary so that there is an understanding on my half but I’ve learnt that people will only understand as far as they understand themselves and to their knowledge. Thats okay..
There is 3 sides to every story which is your side, their side & the truth, Ive been in many situations which prove to me that lack of communication can cause damage to your relationship/ friendship and misunderstanding in a situation. Its not all about having a conversation with someone but its also about how you do it! Ive grown to experience and accept that everyone is different and everyone deals with things differently to how best THEY can handle it. I understand that everyone has their own truth, their own depth which i believe reflects in their communication skills, how they communicate with others, the words they use, the tone, eye contact, body language and movement.
I failed to acknowledge that not everyone is as vocal as i am, i felt obligated to be in the know at all times, failing to accept that no-one owes me anything and no-ones obligated to express themselves to me. Im a sensitive being and because of that i take it highly personal when I’m not in the know. I am learning not to take things so personal as i now understand i am only hurting myself. But at the same time I AM obligated to feel as deeply as i need. I am also learning about my approach, my approach to communication with people, my approach to opportunities, my approach when i am being confronted.. to everything.
Communication goes a long way and i feel that many people don’t really get that, they don’t understand that it is key to any type of relationship you hold with people. When communicating, listen to understand and respond in an appropriate way instead of listening to respond. When you listen to respond you’re not listening or taking in any information instead your awaiting your turn to share your opinion or views and disregarding the other person. Listening to understand could teach you a thing or two, make you look at things in a different perspective and its also a way of showing respect.