🗣“FORGIVE AND MOVE ON FOR YOUR OWN PEACE”🗣
Forgiveness is for YOU. No-one else but you. Its for your own peace. I do believe i am a forgiving person, i don’t hold grudges nor do i like to. If i had it my way i would make amends with everyone that i have been in conflict with but not everyone has the same heart as me. I like making amends with people, i like peace. We live in such a small world and you will meet up with people you were once in conflict with and you see that awkward, uncomfortable feeling you get when you’re around them? Thats what i cannot take. Many times and till this day i find myself forgiving people who aren’t sorry, its a hard pill to swallow as it comes with so much negative emotions, you feel resentful, angry, betrayed etc. Forgiveness makes you the bigger person, & to forgive without the apology makes you an even bigger & braver person, it takes a lot of strength and courage to do that, not many people will understand. I don’t believe in that phrase “forgive and forget” because you don’t ever forget whats been done but you can forgive and move on from it, thats strength! I have a bad habit of not doing what i want to do because i care what others think or would say, not forgiving those i want to forgive because of that same reason but i have grown to accept that this is how i am and i don’t need validation from others in order to go forth with forgiveness. Even if it means others don’t agree with it, i know why I’M doing it. IT’S FOR ME.
Most importantly, forgive yourself!
Forgive yourself over and over again until you feel a peace. Many times we beat ourselves up but at the end of the day, we’re all we have. Complete the needs and wants within yourself FIRST & then everyone else comes after. Forgiveness is a conscious decision which helps release negative feelings, please remember to forgive isn’t to forget and it doesn’t mean u accept whats been done or condone it, you’re simply freeing yourself of deep negative feelings which could damage you and it is also you recognising the pain in which you have suffered without allowing it to define you. You will find it a lot easier to heal and move on.